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Okay so this is going to sound simplistic but it works. When life throws you those inevitable curve balls, the best thing might be to look at the that you like to do, and go from there. Sometimes the easiest things to do can be found right in front of your face. Re-inventing yourself can be fun if you decide to make it that way. So what makes you happy? Music, Art, Working with your hands, Public speaking, Writing, Cooking, Playing games, or Fixing things? Are you a people person or would you rather not be involved with the public? Do a little introspective inventory taking and make a list. Just let your feelings rule the day for a while..
Now its time to be a bit creative in your thinking. How can you incorporate those things that you like to do into your daily life? If you are looking for work, match those things with the criteria for jobs that match. Its much easier to work at a job you really like than drudge along at something you hate or even just tolerating. Believe me, I can really attest to that. I am fortunate enough to have come through exactly that kind of change and I love what I do now.
Maybe its not your job that is the issue. Again go back to the list and adjust your thinking around it. How can you bring more of those things into your personal life. Odds are that if you are looking for love, you can probably find it in somebody with the same likes as you...right? Would it not be easier to talk to someone you have things in common with? They say opposites attract but nothing could be further from the truth. Energy welcomes like energy that is what the Law of Attraction is all about.
In these times it is necessary to be proactive, so get off your butt and start making things happen. Good things really do not come to those who wait. They come to those who put themselves in a position to receive them.
Be a receptor, not a spectator get in the game and play it for all you are worth. Do what comes naturally and you will find happiness.
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Assumptions
I was happy this weekend which is good. And for a while I wasn't, but then I was again. So how did that happen? In one of my earlier posts, I talked about FEAR. False Expectations Appearing Real. That's exactly what happened to me.
The circumstances are not important but what was important is that for a while I had jumped to a conclusion without all the facts. The reality was not what I expected.and in the end, the situation worked out perfectly well and as a matter of fact it went completely my way.
I spent the better part of a half hour being pissed off and miserable, when, if I only had a bit more patience I would not have felt that way at all. My expectation was that I was going to be unhappy, and I was. I allowed my fear to rule my attitude We always create our own reality, my expectation was that I was going to be let down, I reacted to that expectation and as a result I felt let down and angry. Moreover, in that state, I influenced the way people around me were feeling. I caused a chain reaction of bad feelings. For a short time a lot of people, were upset, and angry. None of this was truly necessary. Most likely it never is.
Thankfully, the situation took care of itself and everyone was okay in the end. No permanent damage was done. I am glad that calmer heads prevailed. People make assumptions all the time. Usually, its not a good idea. that old saying "when you assume you make an ASS out of U and Me" tends to be the truth. In the book, The Four Agreements, by Don Carlos Ruiz, the third of the Four Agreements is do not assumptions. This is good advise. Many times the assumptions we make lead to misunderstandings as they did in my case this weekend. Had I taken the time to ask the right questions instead of leaping to the wrong conclusion I would have still had the same great outcome, but passed the pain I caused myself and the discomfort I caused the other people.
Another assumption that I was involved with, happened the week before last. Someone I know, saw me coming out of the Department of Social Services building where I was to find out about getting some help for the huge medical bills I have right now. That person called someone else I know and said they saw me coming out of the Methadone Clinic and asked how long had I had a drug problem. Obviously it was easier for that person to believe/assume that I had a drug issue as opposed to needing some financial help.
Thankfully that misunderstanding was cleared up right away but imagine what might have happened to my reputation had that gone any further?
Anyway all's well that ends well. It's a lesson I wont soon forget.
The circumstances are not important but what was important is that for a while I had jumped to a conclusion without all the facts. The reality was not what I expected.and in the end, the situation worked out perfectly well and as a matter of fact it went completely my way.
I spent the better part of a half hour being pissed off and miserable, when, if I only had a bit more patience I would not have felt that way at all. My expectation was that I was going to be unhappy, and I was. I allowed my fear to rule my attitude We always create our own reality, my expectation was that I was going to be let down, I reacted to that expectation and as a result I felt let down and angry. Moreover, in that state, I influenced the way people around me were feeling. I caused a chain reaction of bad feelings. For a short time a lot of people, were upset, and angry. None of this was truly necessary. Most likely it never is.
Thankfully, the situation took care of itself and everyone was okay in the end. No permanent damage was done. I am glad that calmer heads prevailed. People make assumptions all the time. Usually, its not a good idea. that old saying "when you assume you make an ASS out of U and Me" tends to be the truth. In the book, The Four Agreements, by Don Carlos Ruiz, the third of the Four Agreements is do not assumptions. This is good advise. Many times the assumptions we make lead to misunderstandings as they did in my case this weekend. Had I taken the time to ask the right questions instead of leaping to the wrong conclusion I would have still had the same great outcome, but passed the pain I caused myself and the discomfort I caused the other people.
Another assumption that I was involved with, happened the week before last. Someone I know, saw me coming out of the Department of Social Services building where I was to find out about getting some help for the huge medical bills I have right now. That person called someone else I know and said they saw me coming out of the Methadone Clinic and asked how long had I had a drug problem. Obviously it was easier for that person to believe/assume that I had a drug issue as opposed to needing some financial help.
Thankfully that misunderstanding was cleared up right away but imagine what might have happened to my reputation had that gone any further?
Anyway all's well that ends well. It's a lesson I wont soon forget.
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
A note of thanks to a Friend and Colleague
Today, I came across some kind words written about me from my friend and hypnotic colleague Michael Glowacki who is the owner and operator of Capital Hypnosis which is located in Madison WI Michael and I were classmates in our NLP training and he is a very accomplished and successful practitioner of the hypnotic arts. You can follow his interesting blog at Hypnosis & NLP Success Secrets.
Thanks again Michael for the shout out to me on your blog and the your take on three ways of raising your Self-esteem. I agree totally, and will touch on those ideas in a future blog of my own.
If you are in the Madison WI area and are looking for a well trained, and effective hypnotist I can recommend Michael Glowaki without hesitation.
Namaste,
Roch
Thanks again Michael for the shout out to me on your blog and the your take on three ways of raising your Self-esteem. I agree totally, and will touch on those ideas in a future blog of my own.
If you are in the Madison WI area and are looking for a well trained, and effective hypnotist I can recommend Michael Glowaki without hesitation.
Namaste,
Roch
So what do you want anyway?
Are you going for the big ticket items...World Peace? Curing cancer? Ending Hunger? Winning the Nobel Prize? Or are you thinking more in terms of just "Please God, just let me get through this month!". Granted, I'm talking about the extreme ends of the spectrum here and most of us find ourselves somewhere in between. But not too long ago, I realized that most of what was on my list I fell into the what "I don't want" category. My thought sets fell into things like:
I don't want to run out of money before the bills are paid.
I don't want to get sick again.
I don't want my kids to get into trouble
I don't want my car to break down
I don't want to get stuck in traffic.
I don't want to be behind the guy with bad gas!
I don't want .... get the idea?
In a nutshell, the "Law of Attraction" says that we get what we think about. So as a result, I kept getting more of that kind of stuff. (By the way if you want to learn more about the "Law of Attraction" just Google it you'll find thousands of references.)
What I needed to to, and what I encourage you to do is to understand that all of your don't wants come down to some manifestation of fear, and when you look the root cause of the fear in the eye, it becomes easier to turn your thinking around and re-frame the thought. Someone recently reminded me of an acronym for FEAR; False Expectations Appearing Real. I believe that when it comes to the way we think about things this is often really true.
So how do you flip your don't wants into wants? I have been doing my best to concentrate on being grateful for what I already have.
When the thought comes to me about my bills I say, I am really lucky to have a job now and the opportunity to earn even more.
When the thought comes to me about being sick, I look in the mirror and tell myself how handsome I am and how well I feel right at that moment.
When I worry about my kids I think about how I felt the first time I held them.
When I worry about my car breaking down I think, how much I love driving it with the top down in the sunshine.
When I am stuck in traffic, I say this is a good excuse to listen to another song on the CD
When I am behind the guy with bad gas...Well I guess no matter what I feel I can't do much about his problem LOL I think i will just move to another line.
What all those things do is change the attitude, even if just for the moment, and that breaks the cycle of thought. Do that enough times and your "don't wants" all become less threatening. Before too long you find yourself in a better frame of mind, and then you start putting out the positive energy which brings to you positive things. Then you can really start working on those big Ticket items.
Namaste
I don't want to run out of money before the bills are paid.
I don't want to get sick again.
I don't want my kids to get into trouble
I don't want my car to break down
I don't want to get stuck in traffic.
I don't want to be behind the guy with bad gas!
I don't want .... get the idea?
In a nutshell, the "Law of Attraction" says that we get what we think about. So as a result, I kept getting more of that kind of stuff. (By the way if you want to learn more about the "Law of Attraction" just Google it you'll find thousands of references.)
What I needed to to, and what I encourage you to do is to understand that all of your don't wants come down to some manifestation of fear, and when you look the root cause of the fear in the eye, it becomes easier to turn your thinking around and re-frame the thought. Someone recently reminded me of an acronym for FEAR; False Expectations Appearing Real. I believe that when it comes to the way we think about things this is often really true.
So how do you flip your don't wants into wants? I have been doing my best to concentrate on being grateful for what I already have.
When the thought comes to me about my bills I say, I am really lucky to have a job now and the opportunity to earn even more.
When the thought comes to me about being sick, I look in the mirror and tell myself how handsome I am and how well I feel right at that moment.
When I worry about my kids I think about how I felt the first time I held them.
When I worry about my car breaking down I think, how much I love driving it with the top down in the sunshine.
When I am stuck in traffic, I say this is a good excuse to listen to another song on the CD
When I am behind the guy with bad gas...Well I guess no matter what I feel I can't do much about his problem LOL I think i will just move to another line.
What all those things do is change the attitude, even if just for the moment, and that breaks the cycle of thought. Do that enough times and your "don't wants" all become less threatening. Before too long you find yourself in a better frame of mind, and then you start putting out the positive energy which brings to you positive things. Then you can really start working on those big Ticket items.
Namaste
Friday, September 11, 2009
Sept. 11, 2009 a Brief Memorial
Dear Friends,
I could not let this morning pass without acknowledging the events of this day 8 years ago. It seems to me like yesterday. I am sure everyone recalls where we were on that sunny morning. It's a moment that is forever blazed into our minds, and our hearts profoundly and has touched my soul at its deepest level.
My heart and my prayers go out to everyone who lost loved ones and my thanks and deepest gratitude I extend to the heroic first responders who raced to the rescue not knowing that they had sealed their own fate in doing their jobs.
For the thousands of men and women who toiled in the rubble to put right what was torn down you own my greatest respect.
I have a special affinity for the men and women of flight 93 who stormed the cockpit and died fighting for their lives. I am so proud of them; true American spirits all "LET'S ROLL". Those individuals saved the lives of the people who were the intended targets of the terrorists. God bless them all. They are angels for us all.
Namaste
I could not let this morning pass without acknowledging the events of this day 8 years ago. It seems to me like yesterday. I am sure everyone recalls where we were on that sunny morning. It's a moment that is forever blazed into our minds, and our hearts profoundly and has touched my soul at its deepest level.
My heart and my prayers go out to everyone who lost loved ones and my thanks and deepest gratitude I extend to the heroic first responders who raced to the rescue not knowing that they had sealed their own fate in doing their jobs.
For the thousands of men and women who toiled in the rubble to put right what was torn down you own my greatest respect.
I have a special affinity for the men and women of flight 93 who stormed the cockpit and died fighting for their lives. I am so proud of them; true American spirits all "LET'S ROLL". Those individuals saved the lives of the people who were the intended targets of the terrorists. God bless them all. They are angels for us all.
Namaste
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Change your Mood and Change your Life
This week I want to talk about how you can change your mood when you need to.
Two or three weeks ago I had a miserable morning. First I went to the bank only to find I was seriously overdrawn, then I found out the reason for that was because a family member had neglected to return an expensive item (it was just a misunderstanding) but it caused a chain of bounced checks and the associated charges to my checking account. When I learned about it, I went "ballistic" and lost my temper with everyone around me and my family got the brunt of my frustration and anger.
I was in such a terrible mood that I was storming around the house looking for anything that ticked me off so I could rant more and more. Believe me this was not one of my best moments.
But then I stopped and realized that my anger was an engine that was just driving me further and further down a road that I didn't want to go. For weeks I had been doing my best to raise my vibrational level and manifest good things including more money into my life. I realized that I was doing damage to all of that and that I had to gain control of my feelings and begin to reverse those negative vibrations again. Moreover, I had to get to work and as I am in a sales job I knew that the mood I was in was certainly not conducive to that. If you are radiating negativity people around you pick up on that and nobody is going to buy from you.
So what to do? You can not do a 180 degree turn around on a dime with your feelings. It takes time to counteract bad feelings. Actually for me, when I am in that state of agitation, I usually blow my stack which passes quickly but then I remain moody for a long time. I needed to do something so i could get to work and have at least the chance to make a sale.
I decided to make a sales trip to the farthest part of my territory, this would give me time to work on my mood. What I did then was start listening to my music. More than that I decided to learn the words to a new song that I had been enjoying. So I put a the CD into my player and repeated the song over and over until I knew all the words. By the time I got to my first stop,
I was feeling fine, and in fact I did make a sale that day.
You might think that is all it takes, but the day was not complete because I had to clean up the mess I made at home with all the energy that I left behind me. I had forgiven myself first but I had to make a point of making amends to the people in my house that I had ranted at. Sometimes that is not so easy. I had raised my vibration but they were still upset when I got home. I made an apology for my anger and my ranting, I confessed that what really happened was I was reacting to my own feelings of inadequacy about making enough money to support the family.
What I decided to to was to watch a funny movie and invite my family to watch it with me. It was just an inroad to put us in the same room, in an nonthreatening environment. Unfortunately, the family member who was the recipient of most of my wrath was not ready to sit with me, but at least I had made the effort and I know that vibrations are infectious. I watched the movie and enjoyed it laughed out loud. And the day ended with me knowing that I had reset the right vibrational tone again for me to keep on the right emotional track for good self-esteem so that the next day I could carry that into what ever else came my way.
PS; My family member and I are okay again. Vibrations are infectious! Good and Bad!
Two or three weeks ago I had a miserable morning. First I went to the bank only to find I was seriously overdrawn, then I found out the reason for that was because a family member had neglected to return an expensive item (it was just a misunderstanding) but it caused a chain of bounced checks and the associated charges to my checking account. When I learned about it, I went "ballistic" and lost my temper with everyone around me and my family got the brunt of my frustration and anger.
I was in such a terrible mood that I was storming around the house looking for anything that ticked me off so I could rant more and more. Believe me this was not one of my best moments.
But then I stopped and realized that my anger was an engine that was just driving me further and further down a road that I didn't want to go. For weeks I had been doing my best to raise my vibrational level and manifest good things including more money into my life. I realized that I was doing damage to all of that and that I had to gain control of my feelings and begin to reverse those negative vibrations again. Moreover, I had to get to work and as I am in a sales job I knew that the mood I was in was certainly not conducive to that. If you are radiating negativity people around you pick up on that and nobody is going to buy from you.
So what to do? You can not do a 180 degree turn around on a dime with your feelings. It takes time to counteract bad feelings. Actually for me, when I am in that state of agitation, I usually blow my stack which passes quickly but then I remain moody for a long time. I needed to do something so i could get to work and have at least the chance to make a sale.
I decided to make a sales trip to the farthest part of my territory, this would give me time to work on my mood. What I did then was start listening to my music. More than that I decided to learn the words to a new song that I had been enjoying. So I put a the CD into my player and repeated the song over and over until I knew all the words. By the time I got to my first stop,
I was feeling fine, and in fact I did make a sale that day.
You might think that is all it takes, but the day was not complete because I had to clean up the mess I made at home with all the energy that I left behind me. I had forgiven myself first but I had to make a point of making amends to the people in my house that I had ranted at. Sometimes that is not so easy. I had raised my vibration but they were still upset when I got home. I made an apology for my anger and my ranting, I confessed that what really happened was I was reacting to my own feelings of inadequacy about making enough money to support the family.
What I decided to to was to watch a funny movie and invite my family to watch it with me. It was just an inroad to put us in the same room, in an nonthreatening environment. Unfortunately, the family member who was the recipient of most of my wrath was not ready to sit with me, but at least I had made the effort and I know that vibrations are infectious. I watched the movie and enjoyed it laughed out loud. And the day ended with me knowing that I had reset the right vibrational tone again for me to keep on the right emotional track for good self-esteem so that the next day I could carry that into what ever else came my way.
PS; My family member and I are okay again. Vibrations are infectious! Good and Bad!
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